tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1565128606520217803.post5531063020206090007..comments2023-08-13T02:38:03.434-07:00Comments on I'm Mrs. Brightside: WAS I WRONG TO BE A SAHM?Susanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12768569658001165651noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1565128606520217803.post-25484057603340218792010-07-12T21:11:00.285-07:002010-07-12T21:11:00.285-07:00This is a very tough situation.
I am with you on...This is a very tough situation. <br /><br />I am with you on giving advice about portable jobs and ones that can be done part-time. My oldest daughter is in pharmacy school and my youngest daughter (so far) seems set on nursing.<br /><br />They also know that I think that having kids young was a great decision for me since I knew I was going to stay home with my kids. I'm starting my career a little older than your mom (46), but with lots of time left to earn some money and make my mark.Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1565128606520217803.post-55039506692537233742010-07-12T08:49:36.180-07:002010-07-12T08:49:36.180-07:00What a great post! I can so identify. I worked i...What a great post! I can so identify. I worked in HR before my boys were born and was lucky to be able to stay on part-time when I was a mom. I thought that was the best of both worlds but finally quit in 1997 when things just got to be too much. A few years ago I also started looking to go back to work (part-time again) and was struck by not being current. I tried to teach myself powerpoint! Thought about excel. I was no longer up to date enough to go back to what I had done. What was I qualified to do? Then the economy fell apart and I stopped looking, thinking others needed the jobs more than me. <br /><br />I do not regret staying home with my boys. My advice to your daughters if they want to stay home too is to find volunteer work that gives them skills they can put on a resume. And to stay current on whatever technology comes up.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086719828916510651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1565128606520217803.post-48270474958948651032010-07-11T12:43:07.165-07:002010-07-11T12:43:07.165-07:00What Lisa said. When it comes to the individual jo...What Lisa said. When it comes to the individual job search, it's not you, and the life your daughters live won't be the one you did.Nanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18359007443116549436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1565128606520217803.post-24806754644891483812010-07-10T16:03:46.832-07:002010-07-10T16:03:46.832-07:00You ask what advice I give? Honestly? I tell my ...You ask what advice I give? Honestly? I tell my kids that if they want to do the things we couldn't do because we were always broke or close to it, then they should 1. not get married and 2. don't have kids. And know that the careers they choose will drive what kind of life they have. Plus - doing things is far better than having things.<br /><br />I hope they're listening.<br /><br />I also had Chloe take Elizabeth Warren's book The Two Income Trap out of the library and read it. I'll insist the others do the same.<br /><br />I got married at 22, had my first kid at 25 and spent most of the last 20 years wishing that being a SAHM were an option. It rarely was. I built a solid career in a good field and eventually worked my way to the top, as it were. Now I've been laid off since December 2009 after having taken a job "beneath" my top skill set because when I stupidly left my last job in 2008, the economy was already sliding. In 6 months, I've had one interview.<br /><br />It's not you. You did what you thought best. Don't regret it.lisahgoldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158660223296807317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1565128606520217803.post-83583014415544972372010-07-09T11:24:48.399-07:002010-07-09T11:24:48.399-07:00It's interesting that you bring all this up, b...It's interesting that you bring all this up, because it's been on my mind lately too. <br /><br />I took off five years from work to be a SAHM. I am glad that I did it, but was also happy to go back to work part-time. That job lasted 8 months and then was cut due to budget constraints. I was out of work for a year and have now been in my job for four years. However, my job has been stressful and this last year was very difficult -- so much so that my husband and I decided that it would be better if I left. My contract ends on August 31 and I will be unemployed on September 1 if I don't find something else soon.<br /><br />I recently interviewed for another part-time job and was a finalist before finding out yesterday that I didn't get it. I knew that I was one of eight candidates and that the odds were long. I live in a great town that lots of people want to be in, so there is always competition for jobs.<br /><br />None of this answers your question, but is my wordy way of telling you why this has been on my mind.<br /><br />I don't regret taking time off from my career to raise my children. I know it's not for everyone, but it was great for us as a family. I also feel no great compulsion to jump back into things where I left off. At this point, I want a job that offers flexibility and is interesting. If I'm not a manager, I will happily live with that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1565128606520217803.post-9866355571861408152010-07-09T11:23:26.655-07:002010-07-09T11:23:26.655-07:00It's interesting that you bring all this up, b...It's interesting that you bring all this up, because it's been on my mind lately too. <br /><br />I took off five years from work to be a SAHM. I am glad that I did it, but was also happy to go back to work part-time. That job lasted 8 months and then was cut due to budget constraints. I was out of work for a year and have now been in my job for four years. However, my job has been stressful and this last year was very difficult -- so much so that my husband and I decided that it would be better if I left. My contract ends on August 31 and I will be unemployed on September 1 if I don't find something else soon.<br /><br />I recently interviewed for another part-time job and was a finalist before finding out yesterday that I didn't get it. I knew that I was one of eight candidates and that the odds were long. I live in a great town that lots of people want to be in, so there is always competition for jobs.<br /><br />None of this answers your question, but is my wordy way of telling you why this has been on my mind.<br /><br />I don't regret taking time off from my career to raise my children. I know it's not for everyone, but it was great for us as a family. I also feel no great compulsion to jump back into things where I left off. At this point, I want a job that offers flexibility and is interesting. If I'm not a manager, I will happily live with that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com