Thursday, February 25, 2010
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
For instance, I don't think visualizing or making a scrapbook of things I want will bring them my way. I don't think the circumstances around leaving my job last year were "for the best" or for "a higher purpose." It was all pretty crappy and unhappy. On the other hand, I have a husband who supported me in the decision and who has worked even harder to keep us from moving into a tent city.
While I do believe that having a positive outlook is beneficial to ones health, I don't think you can fight cancer with positive thoughts or cause illness with negative ones.
That said, this latest study is interesting to me because I can answer one of their key questions. I will just quote the article here:
Study author Hilary Tindle, "On the one hand it seems intuitively obvious, but we're not there yet in terms of the evidence we need in order to say optimism causes better health outcomes. All we can say now is that optimism is associated with better health outcomes, but without following people over a lifetime, we can't say which came first." It may seem "intuitively obvious" that positive thinking makes you healthier, but it's also pretty obvious that being healthy — or at least responding well to treatment — makes you happier. Some researchers may have figured out how to separate these effects, but it does seem that many studies of positive thinking and illness would suffer from the same problem: wouldn't people who start to get better naturally feel more positive? And, in a more general way, might people who have good jobs, stable finances, and happy relationships feel more optimistic? Might optimism be the result of a good life, not the cause?
Sunday, February 21, 2010
And then there are kids like the 14 year old girl from my daughter's high school, who ate lunch with her boyfriend on Friday and he broke up with her. She was distraught, she told her friends she wanted to die. At 2:30 she ran in front of the train that passes by the school and killed herself. That is a completely different thing.
People like Alexander McQueen, apparently suffered greatly from depression and determined to wait until his mother passed away to spare her the pain of his death. I don't doubt that he tried to save himself, that others tried to help him and love him and it didn't work for him. I think that is a choice, much like those with terminal illnesses might choose not to linger or go through prolonged treatment.
But the impulse of a girl in the throes of her first heartbreak. Oh! It is so sad. She didn't even go home and cry in her mother's lap.
Friday, February 19, 2010
Monday, February 15, 2010
Saturday, February 13, 2010
It started out as a basic ad on craigslist.org. The kind I have been replying to several times a week for the past 10 months. The job description was very general: data entry, answering phones, administrative tasks. The pay was on the high end at $19.00 per hour.
I received a reply! I was excited. I have only received a handful of acknowledgments and 3 actual responses to the hundreds of applications I have placed. The e-mail said they had 310 responses to their ad and needed to screen down the applications before proceeding. There was a list of questions.
This email, and the list of questions, unlike the ad, were not well written. It was in poor English, a bit confusing and the terminology was a bit strange. The questions did not ask for any information which was illegal or inappropriate. But now the job appeared to be a home based job, networked to the company.
So I checked out the company and it did exist, address matched the e-mail, the type of business and the work was as described. The name of the employee who signed the e-mail , Jackson Rantissi was not on the site, but neither were any of the other employees. They do not list employment opportunities on their site. So I spent about 2 hours carefully answering the questions.
A few days later - I am hired! I will be an independent contractor. They will send me a computer pre-loaded with their software. There will be a training period. They ask for a little more information, not a Social Security number, really just the information that is already on my resume. I have the option to be paid by check or direct deposit to Bank of America.
So I call Tom and tell him I want to forward the e-mail because I am not sure about it. Not even a phone call from anyone? Seems a bit odd.
He asked if I checked out the company, which I had. But in the few days since, this has appeared on the company website:
Possible Scam by Evertek Wireless Inc
posted on: 2/9/2010 10:43:00 AM
We recently have received numerous inquires regarding jobs being offered by Evertek Wireless Inc. This is not our company, nor are we affiliated with them. We would urge you to use extreme caution. Based on the information we have received, this may be a scam.
So it appears that they are slowly drawing people in and then will extract the information they need in order to extort money or identity information. They are smart. They are not using any of the known and often warned about methods. I am sorry that I was not one of the more thorough people who contacted the company directly. I admit I have read so many ads that said don't call that I have become concerned about ruining my chances.
Me, being the optimist I am, I had already planned out the rearrangement of the upstairs bedroom and the confiscation of the nice desk in Ally's room (which she only uses for storage) and what a nice workspace I would make for myself and I would miss having people to work with but $3000.00 a month would make up for it and I wouldn't have to worry about buying work clothes and a commute.
So I hope Jackson Rantissi, if that is your name, and the rest of you scumbag scamming people rot for raising the hopes of this emotionally fragile job seeker. I hope the police catch you if you manage to steal from anyone. And watch out job seekers - they are out to get us, 'cuz we don't already have it hard enough.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Just how long does it take to reverse, strike, repeal or otherwise repudiate all the ridiculous, racist, homophobic, sexist stupid laws and regulations we have on the books in this country? Why is it we must wallow in our own ignorance and cause so much pain and suffering?
All Men Are Created Equal - A simple concept that we just screw up 5 ways to Sunday.